These 5 Things Do Nothing for a Man’s Sex Appeal
Women Just Ain’t Sexually Attracted to These 5 Things
So in this article, I’m going to share the five things that women, on average, aren’t sexually attracted to.
The key phrase here is:
“Aren’t sexually attracted to”
And the five things I’m going to talk about aren’t bad per se. They only become a problem when a guy leads with them when dealing with women.
Ultimately, most guys want women to like them for who they are, not because of the lifestyle they can provide or the things that they own.
So let’s talk about this in more detail.
#1 Your Money
I want to make this abundantly clear:
There is nothing wrong with financial success.
In fact, there’s nothing wrong with wanting to be financially successful. You could say it’s money that makes the world go around.
For example purposes:
You need money to put a roof over your head.
You need money to put food in the fridge.
You need money to turn the lights on.
And your need money to live in a safe, low-crime neighborhood.
Money itself isn’t the problem.
The problem is when guys lead with their wallets when dealing with women. And that usually happens because they lack the fundamentals such as physical fitness, social skills, self-awareness, wit, and charm.
What you’ll often find with a lot of rich guys is that back in school, many of them were nerdy and socially awkward. As a result, they got very little female attention.
The guys who were getting the attention were often the athletes, jocks, and party boys.
So a lot of these nerdy types come to the realization, that they don’t have the social fundamentals, but what they do have is raw intelligence (high IQ) and drive.
So many of them — not all, became rich as a result.
Now that they have money, they suddenly became more visible to women.
They might flaunt it by driving a nice car or by living in a certain neighborhood, etc.
So these guys aren’t entirely wrong when they say money works because in a way, it does work.
Before, they were invisible to women. Now they’re getting attention.
But what money doesn’t do is sexually attract a woman. It doesn’t arouse her. It doesn’t turn her on.
It does nothing for her vagina.
#2 Your House
This really ties in with the previous point because you need money to buy a home, but I’d actually call a home a fake status symbol.
Let me tell you why…
Number one: It can be given to you. If you’re born into a rich family, your relatives might just hand you a home.
It has nothing to do with your character, your personality, or who you are as a person.
It’s just pure luck.
Number two: very few people actually own their home outright.
Most people are essentially renting it from the bank.
So if you don’t even own it, is it really a status symbol?
And if we’re talking purely from a sex appeal perspective, what does owning a home do for a woman?
The answer is nothing.
It doesn’t arouse her at all.
If you look at a house from a logical perspective, it’s just bricks. It’s just shelter — a roof over your head.
It’s not designed to turn anyone on.
#3 Your Car
Just like a house, a car is a crappy status symbol.
For one, it can be given to you. For two, it can be borrowed.
For example, I could go rent a Lambo for a week, drive it around and pretend that I own it—even though I don’t.
The point I’m making here, is that if you see somebody in an expensive car it doesn’t mean anything.
And during my party days, I would see guys pulling up to nightclubs or bars in nice cars, purposely making a scene just to get female attention.
The thing is though, in the 21st century especially in Western countries (where women work) there’s no need to do this.
Let’s just run a scenario:
Imagine a genuinely rich guy who actually owns his nice car (he didn’t rent it).
He pulls up to a bar, gets talking to a woman, grabs her number, and they start texting and meeting up.
Things progress and eventually become serious and long-term.
Fast forward five, six, or seven years. You later find out she only got with him because of his resources and the money he had.
Would it honestly surprise you, that she ended up using him?
Because look at the way the relationship started, it started with the guy leading with his wallet.
When dealing with women, you get what you lead with.
For example:
If you lead with your personality, that’s what she’ll focus on. On the other hand If you lead with your wallet, again that’s what she’ll focus on.
And let’s talk sex appeal because from a sexual perspective, what exactly does a car do for a woman?
She’s not exactly going to have sex with the handbrake is she lol.
Just like a house, a car does nothing for a woman—it just doesn’t turn her on.
#4 Your Job
This is actually quite common in Indian and South Asian cultures.
Still in many parts of Asia, marriages are arranged, and the arrangement is that the man will look after the woman.
Because of this, a man’s job title is a very big deal.
I’ll use myself as an example…
I grew up in England, but even my parents drummed it into me that I needed to get a white-collar job.
And the reason why, was that it would make me more desirable to a South Asian woman.
But the question I want to ask, is this:
If a woman is marrying you because of your job title, does she even really want to be with you?
Does she even like you as a person?
Because if a woman is marrying you, because of what you do for a living, that’s a business decision.
Let’s say for example purposes, you lose that job — would she even stick around?
Because it’s not what her family signed her daughter up for and it’s not what she signed up for initially.
Her family wants somebody to look after her.
Now let’s talk sex appeal, because from a sex appeal perspective, a high paying job does nothing for most women.
When I was in my early twenties, hitting the bars and clubs, there were two guys in my friendship circle who would pull a different woman almost every week — and I’m not exaggerating.
They’d regularly walk out with someone new.
It had nothing to do with job titles. Both of them were still living at their mom’s house and neither of them were established within their careers.
The reason they were successful with women, is because they were confident and consistently put themselves in environments where they could meet single women.
It had nothing to do with money, cars, houses, job titles, or even IQ — which I’m going to be talking about next.
#5 Your IQ
Most women, on average, couldn’t care less about a guy’s IQ or the number he got on a test paper.
It does nothing for them and does nothing from a sex appeal perspective
What you’ll often find is that when women say they like “intelligent guys,” what they’re really talking about is emotional intelligence.
Because getting along with people requires emotional intelligence.
Getting along with women, being able to hold a conversation and make them laugh requires emotional intelligence.
Being a good dad and being able to connect with your children requires emotional intelligence.
Even self-awareness, It’s a huge part of emotional intelligence.
And the beauty of emotional intelligence (EQ) is that, unlike IQ, it can actually be improved.