How to Increase Your Sex Appeal as a Man
Sex Appeal Is About More Than Just Your Body
When it comes to sex appeal, many people think it’s all about your looks—and to be fair, there is some truth to that.
We are visual creatures, after all.
But I’d argue that sex appeal is actually much more about who you are as a person and the energy you give off. It’s a combination of many different qualities.
So let’s break this down in more detail.
#1 Understand the Difference Between Looks and Sex Appeal
The very first thing you need to understand is that good looks and sex appeal are not the same thing.
For example, you could have a guy with model-tier looks—perfect bone structure, perfect genetics—and even women will admit he’s a good-looking guy.
This is the sort of man you’d see on a fitness magazine cover or a billboard.
But let’s say his energy is a bit off. He comes across as shy; personality-wise, he’s not great at emotionally connecting with women.
The way he carries himself—when he walks, for instance—he moves like he’s a little timid.
Women might look at him and say, “Yes, he’s good-looking,” but they don’t want to sleep with him.
Now flip the script:
Let’s talk about a woman with high sex appeal… Marilyn Monroe is a classic example.
For those who don’t know, she was widely regarded as a 20th-century sex symbol.
And if you look at Marilyn Monroe and study her behavior, it wasn’t just her good looks that made her so magnetic.
It was who she was as a person.
She was fun, flirty, and had a touch of playful madness to her. She also wasn’t afraid to show her more vulnerable side.
So, do you see what I mean?
Sex appeal isn’t just about your looks—it’s a combination of many different things.
#2 Build a Body That Is Strong, Fit and Athletic
When it comes to sex appeal, a man’s body can have a powerful effect on women. If you want proof, just look at the way women reacted when movies like Magic Mike came out.
All over the world—women went absolutely mad for it.
And if you think about it logically, this makes perfect sense. When you have sex with a woman, you’re as close to naked as possible (or completely naked).
In other words, you have to like what you see—well the same applies to her.
She has to like your body.
Plus on a deeper, almost subliminal level, when a man is physically fit and in shape, it signals that he can protect, which many women, on average, find highly attractive.
If you’re looking to increase your sex appeal, the very first thing you should do is get in shape.
The great thing is that you don’t need to live in the gym—you can get very good results by training just 3 days a week.
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#3 Become Comfortable in Your Own Skin
A huge part of sex appeal is being comfortable in your own skin.
The reason is simple:
When you’re truly comfortable with yourself, that relaxed, confident energy transfers to her. Suddenly, conversations flow more naturally and emotional connection becomes a hell of a lot easier.
So what does this look like in practice?
It basically means radical self-acceptance — fully accepting the things about yourself that you cannot change.
For example:
Your height — you can’t change it, so you might as well accept it.
Your body build (frame) — you can’t fundamentally alter it. Sure, you can go to the gym and improve your physique, but your basic structure is what it is.
Your penis size — again, you can’t change it.
The only real option is to accept the things you can’t control.
Here’s another way to look at it:
From a very early age, women are bombarded with advertisements and media telling them they need to look a certain way to be desirable. As a result, many (not all, but a significant number) of women carry deep insecurities about their appearance.
So when they meet a guy who is genuinely comfortable and secure in his own skin — someone who isn’t constantly apologizing for or trying to hide parts of himself — it’s like a breath of fresh air.
That confidence stands out in the best possible way.
#4 Deal With Any Sexual Hang UPS (If Applicable)
Look, I’m just going to be very honest with you:
I’m not going to spend too much time on this section of the article. The reason is that I’m not a trained sex therapist—this is not my area of expertise.
However what I can say, is this:
If a person has any sort of sexual hang-ups or is sexually repressed, it will impact their sex appeal.
Why?
Because the brakes are essentially on.
This in turn affects how they talk to women, how they communicate, and their overall demeanor.
A lot of guys in this situation end up friendzoned because—there’s zero sexual energy coming through.
So if anybody is dealing with these kinds of problems, for whatever reason, speaking to a professional and working with a qualified sex therapist might be one of the best things that person can do.
#5 Maintain Your Appearance
I know some people will say it’s shallow and others will say it’s vain, but whether you like it or not, we are judged on our looks.
And looks play a role with regards to sex appeal. Really, it’s just about doing the simple things:
Moisturising every day, going to the dentist every six months, working out, wearing clothes that flatter your physique etc.
It’s the simple stuff.
I’m not going to go into a ton of detail here because I’ve actually already done a whole article explaining how to improve your looks — click this link here to check it out.
#6 Cultivate Assertiveness and Leadership
Sex appeal is heavily tied to a man’s actions and his ability to lead. Like I’ve previously alluded to in the article, it isn’t just about your looks — it’s about your energy, who you are as a person, your attitude, and your behaviour.
And if you speak to many women, they’ll tell you they expect the guy to make the first move.
When dealing with women, you have to be assertive.
It’s extremely rare for women to approach men they’re sexually attracted to — it’s the man who has to do the work.
You have to earn it.
I know a lot has been done for equality in the workplace, and that’s a very good thing because to be fair, in the past women were heavily marginalised.
But here’s the thing:
In the dating and relationship world, traditional gender roles still very much exist.
#7 Figure Out Which Women Are Best Suited to You and Your Personality
What you’ll tend to find with guys who succeed with women is that they stay in their lane.
They don’t chase women who aren’t interested in them—they only deal with women who GENUINELY like them for who they are.
So here’s the key:
As a man, you maximize your own potential. Then you figure out the types of women who are naturally attracted to your specific look, vibe, and personality.
Once you identify them, you focus exclusively on those kinds of women.