4 Behaviors in Men That Tend to Turn Women Off
Just Don't Do These Things
Before I get into the main talking points of the article, there’s just something I quickly want to address.
The behaviours I’m going to talk about are plain unattractive to everybody.
They’re unattractive to the girl you like, unattractive to the lads you hang around with, unattractive to your family members, and unattractive to your work colleagues.
And to be fair, if a woman was exhibiting these behaviours towards you, I’m pretty sure it’d be a massive turn-off for you as well.
So, let’s get into the talking points.
Behavior #1: Chronic Complaining
I want you to notice that I didn’t say complaining — I said chronic complaining.
Because at the end of the day, you’re going to come across things that just piss you off.
That’s life.
There’s nothing wrong with venting your feelings — you could even say it keeps you sane.
What I’m talking about here is the kind of chronic complaining that happens day in and day out.
A chronic complainer usually has a victim mindset.
And if there’s one thing that makes a woman dry — for lack of a better word — it’s a guy with a victim mindset.
And we’re not talking slightly dry. We’re talking bone dry.
Think granny panties.
To put it another way, she ain’t heading off to Victoria Secret anytime soon to buy that lingerie.
So let’s just switch the conversation for a minute and talk about success.
Because to succeed in practically any area — whether that’s with women, whether that’s in business, or in the weight room — you simply can’t have a victim mindset.
You need an internal locus of control which basically means you focus on the things you have influence over.
Because if you don’t, this world will just drive you mad.
And a very good example here… Is a guy who bitches and complains because his favourite sports team lost.
But here’s the thing:
As a spectator, as a fan he has zero control over the outcome.
Number one, he isn’t on the field playing.
Number two, he isn’t managing the team.
So there’s nothing he can do.
So why get emotional? Why let it bother you? Why let it move the needle at all?
Do you see what I’m saying?
And before I move on to the next point, there’s a quote attributed to Buddha that I want to share with you.
It goes something along the lines of:
“The root of all suffering is attachment.”
And while I think that quote is a bit too absolutist, there is definitely an element of truth to it.
And that leads me perfectly into the next point…
Behavior #2: Excessive Neediness
Just so we’re on the same page here, let’s define neediness.
My definition of neediness is somebody who needs constant validation and constant attention.
And here’s the thing:
This behavior is not only unattractive to women—it’s unattractive to everybody.
There’s nothing worse than being around somebody whose hand you constantly have to hold.
It’s emotionally draining.
Now let’s go back to dating here and talk about the initial stages.
Let’s say you’re texting a girl back and forth. She’s texting you, you’re texting her and her responses back are relatively quick.
Then all of a sudden, just out of nowhere she ghosts you and you’re left scratching your head thinking why.
I’ve been there. It hurts because you often take it personally.
But here’s the thing:
Nobody has a 100% win rate. You win some, you lose some. And dating is a competition—whether you like it or not.
If she’s a good-looking girl with a half-decent personality, she’s probably got other guys texting her and sometimes you’ll lose out to other guys.
This is just the reality of dating. It’s the reality of any competition.
Anybody who has played sports will tell you that you don’t win every game. It’s the same for video games—even in that domain, even in the virtual world, you don’t win every time.
Remember—You win some, you lose some.
So all you can do when dealing with women—especially in the initial stages—is put your best foot forward.
If you win, fantastic. If not, there’s plenty more fish in the sea. It’s about having an abundance mindset.
Because let’s be honest:
There are billions of women on this planet. And to be frank with you, if a woman is rejecting you and it’s really, really bothering you, then that’s a self-esteem issue.
In a previous article that I wrote I basically said that the most important relationship is the one you have with yourself—and the reason why is because it impacts all other relationships.
When you get a minute, feel free to check it out by clicking this link.
Behavior #3: Being Overly Concerned With Your Appearance
I’m not going come on here and say that looks don’t matter. Because, to a degree, looks do matter.
Whether you like it or not, we’re all judged on our appearance — it’s human nature.
But here’s the thing:
You don’t want to become obsessed with your appearance. You don’t want to be the bodybuilder guy who can’t stop looking at himself in the mirror.
You don’t want to be that Clav guy on the internet doing bone smashing.
You don’t want to be like Patrick Bateman from American Psycho, who’s completely obsessed with how he looks.
There’s a very fine line between caring about your looks and being obsessed with them.
And being obsessed turns most women off — big time.
Behavior #4: Putting Her on a Pedestal
Anyone with an ounce of self-awareness will eventually come to the conclusion that they’re far from perfect.
We all have imperfections. We all have a light side and a dark side.
So with that knowledge in hand, it only makes sense to treat people based on their behaviour — not because they’re pretty, not because they look good, and not because they smell nice, but because of how they act.
Yet you still see guys putting women on a pedestal, placing them above themselves.
Quite frankly, it’s a self-esteem issue.
And women often pick up on it and very often see it as you not respecting yourself.
If we look at it purely from a logical perspective:
Why should a woman respect a man? If he doesn’t even respect yourself?
It starts with you.
And let’s be real — she’s far from a goddess.
Number one, she poops on a regular basis.
Number two, she farts, burps, and sweats like everybody else.
Number three, she bleeds every 21 to 35 days because of her period.
In fact, you shouldn’t put anybody — man or woman — on a pedestal.
Why?
Because they’re human, just like you.