🚨 Warning 🚨
Let’s first begin by addressing sexual consent.
This article is NOT about manipulating women or using pressure tactics. She is in charge and will ALWAYS have the final say as to whether you both have sex or not.
Sex is ONLY consensual when both of you agree.
When it comes to pulling women, there are generally two things that will make or break your success.
The first one is your environment — the town or city that you’re in.
Every place has its own energy, its own vibe, and you’ll get a real sense of this through experience.
It’s also worth mentioning the country you’re in.
For example, women in Western countries tend to be freer and more open than women in many other parts of the world, and that makes a big difference.
The second thing is the quality of your wingmen — the lads you’re hanging around with.
And this is what I’m going to be talking about in this article, and by the end of it I’m pretty sure you’ll understand why the quality of your wingmen is so important.
#1 Skills Are Caught, Not Taught
If you really want to learn how to pull women the very best way to do that is to surround yourself with guys in the real world who are successful with women.
That’s the rock-solid truth
The analogy I like to use is this:
When you’re learning to drive technically you’re not really learning how to drive, you’re just learning how to pass the test.
It’s only once you’ve got your license and you’re out driving on your own that you start actually learning how to drive well.
Well it’s kind of the same with my written articles.
My aim is to point you in the right direction and it’s only when you hang around with guys in the real world who are actually successful with women that you start seeing — with your own two eyes — exactly what works and what doesn’t work.
And this leads me perfectly onto the next point.
#2 You Inherit Their Standards
In the intro of this article I basically said that it boils down to two things.
No. 1: Your environment — that’s the town, city, or country you’re in.
No. 2: Your wingman — that’s the lads you’re hanging around with.
So what I’m going to do now is explain the above in a bit more detail. Using an example so you understand it.
Take a guy who has two different groups of friends.
In the first group, every single lad is out there approaching women, talking to women, flirting with women, and potentially pulling them.
In this group approaching women, flirting with women — it’s completely normalized. It’s just what they all do.
So naturally, when this guy is in this group, pulling women feels a lot easier for him.
Now let’s look at Group two because the vibe in this group is completely different.
When he’s with this group, he finds it much harder to pull and the reason is simple:
It’s because the lads in this group aren’t interested in pulling women at all. When they go out, their focus is on getting drunk, singing, dancing, and partying.
So naturally, it’s harder for him to pull in Group two than in Group one.
The analogy I really like is a player playing for a sports team.
When a player is on a better team, he often gets better — not because of his natural ability, but because of his environment.
The environment demands more from him. He’s surrounded by better players.
The exact same thing can be said for your wingmen.
#3 Confidence Is Contagious
This really ties into the first point:
Skills are caught, not taught.
You see when you hang around with guys who are successful with women in the real world, you’re basically seeing with your own two eyes exactly how these guys operate.
And even among guys who’ve been successful with multiple women, you’ll often find that they still get rejected.
Nobody has a 100% win rate.
But what these guys do is handle rejection with a completely different attitude to most people.
They’ve developed a thick skin — not because they don’t feel it, but because they’ve been rejected hundreds of times before.
You’ll watch them get rejected, then 10–15 minutes later they’re already chatting with another group of women.
That’s the exact winning attitude you need to pull women.
We can tie this back to the sports analogy because it’s the same principle.
Look at teams that win the league year after year. They don’t win every single game — they lose some too.
But when they lose, they don’t dwell on it for long. They simply move on to the next game.
The mentality for pulling women is more or less the same.
#4 You Get Real Time Feedback
You could call it learning on the job.
It’s like with anything, the more you do something, the more you start spotting patterns.
For example, you might notice that you have way more success when you approach a group of women with one guy rather than another.
Another example:
Might be noticing that when you approach women too early in the night, you often get nowhere.
Every interaction, whether it’s a win or lose, is just feedback in real time.
Not to mention, that having a good wingman can be beneficial in the sense that — he’ll point out your mistakes, but he’ll do it in a constructive and helpful way.
#5 It Kills the Scarcity Mindset
You see, when you hang around with guys who are successful with women in the real world, you see with your own two eyes that these guys get rejected too.
Nobody is immune to it.
So you start to internalize the fact that if these guys are getting rejected and they’re just moving on and still experiencing success with women, then that’s what’s possible for you as well.
Guys who are successful with women don’t have a scarcity mindset.
They’re not fixated on the woman or women who have rejected them.
Metaphorically speaking, they get punched in the face, accept it then move on.
Remember:
There is plenty more fish in the sea.