Modern Dating: Just Ditch the Apps
Are You Not Sick and Tired of Swiping?
Let's be honest:
The reason people sign up for dating apps is because it's less effort.
All you have to do is sign up, enter your details, upload a few photos, write a bio, and bam—you've got access to a pool of single women ready to mingle.
Best of all, you can do this from the comfort of your own home.
However, if you're not great at taking photos or flirting over text—yes, let me repeat that, flirting over text—then you're unlikely to succeed with dating apps.
Honestly I'm convinced that dating apps were designed for the socially awkward because if you're meeting people in the real world, which is what you should be doing dating apps won't even be on your radar.
Reason #1 Dating Apps Are an Absolute Sausage Fest
The very first thing you need to know about dating apps is that they’re designed in a clever way to trick your brain.
What I mean is this:
Is when you sign up for a dating app and create your profile, you’re bombarded with profiles of women dressed to the nines.
So logically speaking, it seems like a fantastic place to meet women, but here’s the catch:
What the app doesn’t show you is how many guys are on it.
Before making this article, I researched the gender demographics, and what I found shocked me.
On Tinder, 75% of users identify as male—let me repeat that, 75%!
To put it another way, if I’m at a bar looking to meet a woman and there are 3x as many guys as girls, do you know what I’d do?
I’d finish my bottle of Corona and head straight to the exit door.
Reason #2 Dating Apps Are Super Artificial
And what I mean by this is that, due to the nature of dating apps, with it being text-based communication, you can't see her nonverbal responses to your texts.
This is all well and good when you're texting someone you know, but when you're texting a complete stranger, it's a nightmare.
As I said at the start of this article, “flirting over text” it’s just not natural at all because you can't hear the person's voice, see their facial expressions, or observe their hand gestures—all of which are crucial for connecting with someone.
If you actually look at text messaging when it was first introduced, its sole purpose was short-form communication.
It was never designed for having conversations with complete strangers.
I was born in 1988, so I was a kid in the '90s and a teenager in the early 2000s. Back then, if you were texting someone all the time, people would have thought you were an absolute weirdo.
Yet here we are in 2025, using dating apps to meet people.
Honestly, if you want to meet people, you’re much better off taking classes, attending events, or pursuing hobbies.
Reason #3 You Meet Better Quality Women in the Real World
The truth is, when you choose online dating, you don’t always know what you’re getting.
We now live in a time where it’s become socially acceptable to alter your images and apply filters, and practically every every girl on these apps is using some sort of filter.
So don’t be surprised if you do end up meeting a girl off the app, and she looks completely different.
That’s the effect of filters!
Contrast this with the real world, where what you see is what you get.
Yes, women in the real world wear makeup, but during the day, you’re unlikely to see many women heavily dolled up.
Also worth mentioning that the gym, particularly the sauna, is a great place to meet people because you’re both practically naked.
Another benefit of meeting people in the real world is that you won’t encounter phrases like:
“I don’t do ‘fuck’ boys”
or
“I don’t do one-night stands,”
Yet women on dating apps write these kind of things.
Reason #4 Women Don’t Even Like These Apps
When women select mates, they generally screen for 3 traits:
Confidence
Social skills and popularity.
Sex (does he look like he’s good in bed)
If he happens to meet this criteria, even if he isn’t considered conventionally good-looking, he is STILL likely going to do well with women.
Yet, on dating apps, it’s challenging for women to screen for those things because they only have text and images to rely on, which, as mentioned earlier, can be altered.
So not only are dating apps problematic for men but also for women.
What you will tend to find is, that many women join these apps with good intentions, hoping to find a partner, but often end up leaving the apps, because they grow frustrated and tired of the swiping experience.
And speak to many women, and they will tell you this.
They will tell you that they prefer meeting people organically in the real world—whether that be at a bar, nightclub, workplace, or event.
They would rather connect face-to-face because it allows them to screen and vet potential partners more effectively.
Reason #5 Its Not a Productive Use of Your Time, Energy and Money
One of the main selling points of dating apps is that they’re supposed to save time, but this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Many people, particularly men, spend more time swiping than actually going on dates.
So in response to this, what many users do is purchase subscription plans within the app, hoping to increase their chances of meeting someone.
However, what many people fail to realize, is that the app they are using is a business, and for that business to make money, it needs users to keep swiping.
Some might even argue that it’s not in the app’s best interest for users to find someone, because doing so means they stop being a paying customer, which of course is terrible for business.